Isolation: The “Side Effect” of Motherhood

by rebecca on January 21, 2013

Oh, mamas. Oh mama…you are not alone. Whatever you are feeling right now, we have been there, done that…especially if you are feeling a bit isolated (even though ironically there is another human being with you almost all the time, right??)!

It’s a weird phenomena that happens once the “excitement” of having that baby dies down and life returns to its “new normal”. That new normal that requires that hourly, day in-day out care of everyone else (even the chickens…no joke…just watch until the end of the video) but yourself. And then you hit naptime…that glorious time when your little one hits the hay and you have a choice…shower or become best friends with the characters on General Hospital (you know which one won in my house!)? And then the isolation continues.

It will be normal, especially if you are used to be a working mama and are now staying at home. And a little bit of “now what?” does exist…and throw in a little “who am I because I forgot?”…and top it off with “I don’t feel like myself at all” and you can have a recipe for disaster…not just isolation, but a possible road to depression.

How on earth do you recognize the warning signs, and what can you do about it? So glad you asked…can’t wait for you to WATCH this video! And once you do, LIKE it, SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube Channel (thanks so much for doing so!! We’re so encouraged!), and COMMENT BELOW…how are you really doing?? We’d love to hear from you!

Have any questions for us…we’d love to hear from you! Click on the “Email Us” button and give us a shout! :)

Until next post…don’t forget to shower and phone a friend. ūüėČ

Hugs!!

E&R

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So, admittedly, this is a departure from where Erin and I usually reside in “mommyhood-and-all-things-baby-land” and instead we find ourselves really chewing on the nitty-gritty of marriage and the question, can your hubby have a friend who is a girl, or can you have a friend who is a guy?

I suppose it comes back to that infamous question in “When Harry Met Sally” when Billy Crystal adamantly states, “Men and women cannot be friends.” Of course, Sally argues the opposite, and through years and adventures and interesting food, they end up falling in love. Hmmm…

So, you’ve found your “Harry” and your hubby has found his “Sally”…the question is can you have a friend besides your Harry, that is not necessarily friends with Harry as well. It’s so sticky for sure, because we “Sallies” would love to say, “Yes, yes because I genuinely and altruistically non-romantically care for my friend”…but in the back of our minds we know Harry is right.

And more importantly, we recognize marriage is a commitment, a relationship in which we have to live out “honor” to our spouse every day, even when the decision that has to be made can make us grieve what “was.” Nothing, however, is enough for us to forsake our spouse and the vows we made to them.

Basically, I’ve spoiled our position. However, it’s interesting to see these real issues crop up even in the midst of healthy and honest relationships. Which, I must say, is a blessing for Erin and Jeff…that there is amazing communication, a commitment to speak the truth in love, and to honor in word and deed what they vowed to each other years ago! Truth be told, I love my friend…my sweet friend Erin, who shares her heart and struggles here with you on YouTube. She’s basically awesome…like on a cellular level.

For goodness sake, LIKE our video, SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube Channel (hooray for all our new subscribees!! We love you!!!), and COMMENT BELOW…where do you stand on this issue? We’d love to know your thoughts!

Have any questions, click on “Email Us” in the upper right corner. We’d love to hear from you!

Until next post…

Loads of love!

E&R

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A Cloth Diaper Update for 9 Month Old Twins

by rebecca on January 5, 2013

Yes, yes. It’s the diaper discussion AGAIN! LOL! We laugh in the face of our old-used-to-be-single-selves where we shrieked away from the idea of human excrement or heaven-forbid talking about it! We laugh in the face of all-things-once-thought-taboo-or-gross. We laugh because we are moms. Moms who will tend to our little ones whatever the “cost”, be it our noses, our gag reflexes, or even our intelligent conversations. And today, we are super moms. Why? Because we are going there again! Hello diapers.

So, if you have seen any of our previous vlogs on cloth diapers, you know Erin’s “crusade” to use cloth diapers…not because of any environmental kick (though she does drive a hybrid!), but because she and Jeff sat down and figured out what on earth 3 years of disposable diapers would cost their family of four. Let’s just say, we could buy a lot of malaria nets with the money.

And, dag-nab-it! Erin did beautifully! Wrapping, swaddling, washing, velcro-ing those diapers 15 times a day for the twins…what a warrior mama! That is until she realize time vs. the effort was not paying off as she’d hoped…especially after the 2 rambunctious boys started moving, peeing, moving, peeing some more…let’s just say it has been a little more disasterous than dreamy!

And that’s OKAY! No really! If you are looking for permission to change your mind on any of your “must-have’s” pre-reality-motherhood, just watch this video, because WE GIVE IT TO YOU! ūüėČ Promise! The theme is grace! Grace to choose what is best for your family (and that varies depending on your family)…and grace to choose sometimes what is plain-old-easiest.

Want to feel better about your mothering decisions? Take 6 minutes and spend it with Erin and me. After, LIKE our video, SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel (thanks to the huge upswing!!), and COMMENT BELOW…what’s working or not working for you and cloth diapers? We’d love to know!

Have a question for us?? ¬† Click on the “Email Us” link in the upper right corner and let us know what’s on your mind!

Until next post, warrior mamas and papas, journey on!

Hugs!

E&R

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Organic Baby Food- The How-To’s

by rebecca on December 19, 2012

Ever wonder why a mom of twins would make her own organic baby food? If yes, do you then wonder how on earth she does everything, including making her own organic baby food? Me TOO!

And yet, Erin, the wondermom, does…and she spends 7 minutes with us filling us in on how “easy” it really is! :) Watch the our video, LIKE it, SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube Channel, and LEAVE A COMMENT below…especially if you have any questions for Erin.

Until Next Post-

Hugs!

E&R

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Just As You Are…

by rebecca on December 2, 2012

It’s quiet, once again, in my house! ¬†All little ones snuggled and cuddled fast to sleep…and I’m typing in the glow of the Christmas tree lights, that are somewhat begging me to shut down the computer, sip my coffee, and read a good book! ¬†And true to cliche, it is raining outside as well!

I must admit in the past week I’ve become hooked on Pinterest. ¬†If you have not discovered Pinterest, (www.pinterest.com) save yourself and your sanity and stay far away. ¬†It’s like a light for bug zapping…it causes all time to stand still as you’re sucked into the vortex of a million ideas all from the internet “pinned” randomly and amazingly for your nudging enjoyment. ¬†And you get to “pin” those visual ideas to your virtual bulletin boards to be looked at, referenced, or in my case, purposefully ignored, until a time when you can really spend all your time just “surfing” the ideas that make your heart go “pitter, patter.”

I stayed away.  Even being a member of the site, I stay far away.  Why?  Oh, because I know myself well-enough to not go towards the light.  That was until last week.  And then I got zapped.

The ideas are endless. ¬†The creativity of humans is astonishing (to quote my mother). ¬†And quite honestly, there is something about the site that transports me out of my tiny little existence into a world where I can make a concoction that will get out yellow arm pit stains, while creating a burlap wreath for my front door, and learning some parenting tips that are sure to “Raise a Well-Mannered Child”. ¬†Yes, all because of Pinterest.

But then I get in the spin cycle that is part of the initial zapping. ¬†The emotional spin cycle that says, “to be a great mom I need to label every little container in my son’s room with a cool surf motif name tag, and cut little hearts in my daughter’s sandwiches, and maybe dress them in upcycled clothes that I’ve created out of old t-shirts and dungarees (my new favorite world)”. ¬†The emotional spin that feeds those little lies that will tell me, “I am not enough. ¬†And whatever I’m doing right now, well, that can be bettered, and bettered, and documented, blogged about, commented on, and then even bettered.”

And I’m off. ¬†Running a race that nobody else is running. ¬†A race that is curiously never-ending. ¬†A race that drives me to exhaust myself to all hours of the night because I’ve got to be the best, or the most innovative, or the most multi-talented/well-rounded

Yet, my kids…my precious two kids who are sleeping upstairs, don’t really care about any of that. ¬†Instead, like Mark Darcy says in “Bridget Jones’s Diary” (one of my favorite movies and my favorite lines from it), they would say, “(We) like you (mom) just as you are.”

And really, isn’t that enough?

So my goal despite what my pinboards show, is to create an environment where they are loved, feel safe and secure, are understood and allowed to be who they were created to be.  It is not to create a beautiful facade for other women to want to emulate, but to create the real deal where the people I love the most actually want to be.

This is my wish for you as well. ¬†Here’s to being and living “just as you are.”

Hugs!

R

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